Just Between the Two of You
Although it is often best simply to overlook the sins of others, there will be times when doing so only prolongs alienation and encourages them to continue acting in a hurtful manner. If you know that someone has something against you, go to that person and talk about it as soon as possible. Similarly, if someone’s sins are dishonoring God, damaging your relationship, hurting others, or hurting that person, one of the most loving and helpful things you can do is go and help him or her see the need for change. With God’s grace and the right words (including your own confession), such a conversation will often lead to restored peace and stronger relationships.
1. Is there someone who might have something against you? If so, what does Jesus command you to do even before you seek to worship God? (PM @ 148- 150; see Matt. 5:23-24)
2. How has (or might have) the other person sinned or done wrong in this situation?
3. Which of these offenses should you overlook, and which should you discuss with the other person? (PM @ 150-155; see Prov. 19:11). Why? (Is the person’s conduct dishonoring God? Damaging your relationship? Hurting others? Hurting the offender himself?)
4. Would it be better to talk privately or to involve others right away? Why? (PM @ 143-148; see Matt. 18:15-16) Who might be a helpful mediator?
